I don't expect others to do it.
The phrase "I don't expect anything from others," "I don't expect anything from you anymore!" but that is not what is actually being asserted. https://gyazo.com/205e1fcdd4bc39d62127b8a9bfd143d5
When one believes that "the consequences of another's actions will fall within one's expectations" and that "it is the responsibility of others to let them in."
https://gyazo.com/f582ecd594241b3e831841f4710d315d
When the results of another person's actions do not fall within expectations, the discrepancy between expectations and feelings of discomfort.
https://gyazo.com/3674fbc12bb923ddebd3810af7d2376c
If you don't think, "The consequences of someone else's actions will fall within my expectations," or "It is the responsibility of others to put them in," then "Based on those consequences, it is my actions that will bring them to the level I expect."
https://gyazo.com/0f07510189907aa08a3a5efa60daca17
In this case, if someone else's behavior is similarly misaligned, there is no significant difference, just a slight shift in the starting point of one's own behavior. This has a lower mental cost for me.
In other words, to lower the mental cost, "Let's abandon the erroneous belief that 'the consequences of other people's actions will fall within our expectations. This is abbreviated as "no expectations of others.
#Disease that's faster if you do it yourself ---
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